Embracing Kindness: Interacting with People with Disabilities
I recently posted this to social media:
"I was reminded of the power of kindness in a simple moment recently at a deli. A young girl with a disability, eager to share her Easter excitement, approached me. While everyone else ignored or stared at her, we chatted about what the Easter Bunny brought us. She lit up when she heard I had chocolate in my Easter basket, just like she did (thanks, Mom!) It was a small yet meaningful interaction that brightened my day.
Moments like these show the beauty of connecting with others, regardless of our differences. Let's all try to be a little more present and open to these opportunities. A little kindness can go a long way in making the world a better place."
After posting, I received several questions about how to feel more comfortable around people with disabilities, so I've listed a few ideas. Please do not actively approach individuals, but keep these in mind if someone with a disability approaches you or shows interest in talking.
See the Person, Not Just the Disability: Encourage people to see individuals with disabilities as just that—individuals. It's essential to focus on the person rather than their disability.
Common Courtesy: Treat others with the same politeness you would expect. Speak in a normal tone, not shouting. A friendly greeting, a smile, or a nod can go a long way in making someone feel acknowledged and respected.
Ask Before Helping: Sometimes, well-intentioned offers of help can come across as patronizing or unnecessary. It's always best to ask if assistance is needed before acting.
Listen and Learn: If someone with a disability shares something about their experience, listen. This can be an opportunity to learn more about their perspectives and challenges.
Be Patient: If communication takes longer than usual, be patient. Everyone has their own pace and style of communication, and showing patience can make a big difference.
Language Matters: Use person-first language (e.g., "person with a disability" rather than "disabled person") unless instructed otherwise. However, be aware that preferences vary; some may prefer identity-first language (e.g., "autistic person.") Follow the individual's lead.
Educate Yourself and Others: Learning about different disabilities can help you become more comfortable in interactions and better understand the needs and experiences of individuals with disabilities.
Be Respectful of Privacy: Just like anyone else, people with disabilities have a right to privacy. Avoid asking personal questions about someone's disability unless they choose to share that information with you.
Once more, I urge you to refrain from seeking out individuals to approach actively. However, if someone approaches you with a disability, remember to respond with kindness and patience. These simple actions can make a significant impact and help create a more inclusive and understanding community.
And thank you to those “in the field” that provided feedback on these suggestions.
